Is Your Child Capable Of Composing Music Maybe The Next Mozart

July 31, 2008

We’ve all heard of them. Child prodigies who begin composing music at some ridiculously young age. For instance, history reports that Mozart was writing minuets by the time he was five years old. Amazing. At five years of age, I’m not sure that I knew the difference between my finger and my thumb and I certainly wasn’t composing music.
Now there is no doubt that the fact that Mozart was composing music by the age of five does not prove that any of the rest of us ever could compose music, but a number of studies conducted over the past fifty or so years indicates that most children can begin composing music as long as they are given both guidance and opportunity.
True, in the vast majority of the cases the end product is not going to rival anything that Mozart put out, but just because you (or your child) may not be the best there ever was at composing music doesn’t mean the attempt is not worth the effort. If we follow that reasoning why would a child learn to walk or run when he or she knows he could never walk or run as well as, say, Michael Jordan? Why would they learn to talk if they knew they could never speak as well as Bill Clinton or Ronald Reagan?
Similarly, imagine if Mozart’s parents had not given him the opportunity to be exposed to music and then the formal training that gave him the tools to begin composing music. The world would be a poorer place without the input of this musical genius.
In Mozart’s situation, he began formal training on the keyboard at the age of four and within a year he was composing music - though I’m sure that it wasn’t of the caliber of his later works. In the case of the average child, however studies have shown that if given the opportunity and the education (i.e. instruction on an instrument, a little bit of music theory, etc) average children can begin composing music somewhere around the age of nine.
Give your child the opportunity and training he or she needs to begin composing music. In most cases it will develop their mind, round out their education, and give them a creative outlet. Eventually, however, of all the children composing music who might not have otherwise, the next Mozart will spring and if it’s your child, the world will thank you. And if not, at least your child has been exposed to some good music and had his or her mind stretched a bit.
I am extremely thankful that my parents had the good sense to expose me to music by way of piano lessons starting when I was about 7. And even though it didn’t “take” until I was an early teenager, when it did I had the background in music theory and technique to where I could progress rapidly from then on. And while I’m a country mile from Mozart’s class, I do well enough to enjoy my self and make a living in music.

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Persuasion Through Needs Is Achieved In The Film Fargo

July 30, 2008

The film Fargo, an Academy Award winner for Best Picture in 1996, has several characters that exemplify the first process premise of needs, in turn making this film persuasive. This film is based around the life of a man named Jerry Lundegaard, whom is deep in debt and is married to a woman whose father has no respect or admiration for him. His typical day at work involves ripping customers off at the car dealership where he works as the head sales manager. His need for respect and money leads him to hire an ungainly pair of men to kidnap his wife so that he can collect ransom money. Unfortunately, his personal needs lead to a homicide spree throughout Fargo, North Dakota. Determined to solve any case bestowed upon her, Marge Gunderson, the police officer from Brainerd, Minnesota, seems to walk onto the scene of a multiple homicide - which sparks her quest to find the murderer. The two whom kidnapped Lundegaard’s wife seem to end up in more trouble than the ransom money is worth. Eventually, Lundegaard is taken in for conspiring and kidnapping, while the other two hoodlums that carried out the kidnapping and murders throughout the movie, one dies at the hand of the other, and the surviving one is taken to jail.
Process premises are very relevant to this movie’s persuasive appeal - as several characters appear to be engulfed by their own personal needs and desires. “Process premises rely on psychological factors that operate in nearly all persuaders (Larson 147).” In this movie, the director uses several process premises to persuade our emotions into allowing us to relate to and enjoy this film. Specifically, needs, the first process premise, are used as a persuasive tool, “Each of us has a set of individual needs. Some of them are critical to us - we can’t live without them (for example. food, water, clothing, and shelter). Others are not critical - we can get along with out them, at least for a while (Larson, 152).” This type of persuasion is key, “To be really effective, persuaders [authors, producers, or advertisers] must successfully determine their audience’s needs (Larson, 152).” Due to the individual nature of human beings, we all have several different priorities. However, the needs that we all feel are similar in nature and can be explained by several different theories.
Through examining the first process premise of needs, Packard’s Eight Compelling Needs expose several needs when looking at the personalities and emotional needs of two main characters in the film Fargo. Lundegaard and Gunderson, both fulfill several of Packard’s Eight Compelling Needs, which are:
The need for emotional security, the need for reassurance of worth, the need for ego gratification, the need for creative outlets, the need for love objects, the need for a sense of power, the need for roots, and the need for immortality (Larson, 152-160).
The need for Emotional Security is defined as the need to know that one is safe and secure in a world that has an abundance of threatening characteristics. Stability and long-term prospects often are not experienced, while financial strain and personal relationships sometimes go awry. Many different factors put our emotional security at risk. Lundegaard, his wife and one son are not doing very well financially and his work situation seems to be deteriorating (Weaver). His security for his family and self are not just at risk, but in a more miserable state - his security has been torn. Leaving him no choice but to seek out other ways of ensuring emotional security, Lundegaard stages a kidnapping in order to receive ransom money from his wife’s father with the hopes of alleviating his problem and gaining back his emotional security.
The need for Reassurance of Worth can be described as the need to feel that you have accomplished something and that the tasks, which you complete, are of value. This concept is well described by Packard:
…people need to feel valued for what they do - whether it is in a factory, at a desk, in a classroom, or in a day-care center. Housewives, blue-collar workers, managers, and public sector workers all need to feel that they are accomplishing something of value, are needed by their families and organizations, and are appreciated by others (Larson, 155).
Lundegaard is subject to this need for similar reasons as the first need of emotional security. His job, even though he is the “head sales manager,” does not give him any fulfilling rewards or any sense of accomplishment that Packard outlines as important feelings that are desired and needed by all persons. As a way to battle his lack of worth, you can catch the character’s eyes gleaming with joy and his face light up with a smile when he has accomplished something that he feels as important. In his own way he is attacking the lack of accomplishment and through his outwardly appearance, this is notable. One of the key reasons that Lundegaard stages the kidnapping is to hide from his wife that he is having financial troubles and to reassure her that he is capable of supporting the family. This reason stresses the need for reassurance of worth- a need that many people feel lacking in their own lives.
Ego gratification is the third need that Packard believes is a need shared by all individuals. This need states the simple fact that people like to be brought up emotionally, and given extra value through compliments, which will increase their own self worth and ego. Self perception is often the culprit of a low self-esteem - this issue can often be alleviated through the careful “’stroking’ [and making the person]… feel as if they are really special - a step beyond mere self-worth. (Larson, 156)”
Gunderson’s job as police officer in a small town in Minnesota leaves her ego slightly battered due to a lack of uplifting comments. The film does not state whether she has a family- so it is safe to assume that ego gratifying comments must come from friends or colleagues. However, working for a police force in a small town probably does not give many chances for these types of comments. Gunderson uses her own expertise and the way she carries herself throughout the movie to give a boost to her ego. Gunderson “just goes about her everyday business, eating (in nearly every scene), talking to the people in the community, and examining bloody corpses as if no day is different from the next (’Fargo’).” However, she does take a rather stern tone with Lundegaard when she is interviewing him about the murders, this tone signifies one of her many attempts to gain ego gratification.
Creative Outlets is a need, which many movie viewers can easily relate to. This need is one where we seek to be recognized for out own individual accomplishments. Straying away from Lundegaard and Gunderson for a moment, the role of the 2 kidnappers must be evaluated regarding this need. The 2 kidnappers represent a stark contrast in personalities. One is a very quite, large, bold, and threatening looking man that tends to keep his public appearance in check throughout the movie. The disparity between the two is seen in the second kidnapper’s personality and attitudes. He is maintains a smaller build and can be characterized as a hyper and attention seeking individual. Through the second kidnappers attention seeking comments - we can see his desire to be recognized for his ideas, reasoning, and general beliefs. Several instances when the two are traveling together, he will make a comment; when he is ignored by the first kidnapper, the second kidnapper will make a comment about him [the first kidnapper] not listening to him. Further, he will badger him for being so quite and uses this type of communication to stress that he is capable of formulating ideas on his own.
The need for Love Objects is experienced through Gunderson’s relations with a past friend from her earlier years. The importance of love objects is felt by any person whom seeks the feeling of belonging. Gunderson seeks this feeling, and in trying to fulfill it she meets up with an old friend. The feeling is felt- but too strong for her own comfort when then guy she is meeting comes on to her and tries to put his arm around her. This is an example of a failed attempt to fulfill one of Gunderson’s needs.
Power is one of the most important aspects of conversation and even broader, our existence in society (Anjek). The need for a Sense of Power goes beyond control, and into the realm of satisfying several other needs by establishing power. Lundegaard seeks out the fulfillment of several needs; emotional security, ego gratification, and reassurance of worth through the use of money to establish power. He believes that money will be the encompassing solution to his problems. The ends do not justify the means, however, in this situation. Kidnapping and holding his wife ransom to gain financial power is not justified by his need for gaining financial power. The relevance of his needs to the viewers of this film is summed up through Larson’s statement; “We Americans, perhaps more than members of any other culture, seem to be programmed to chase potency and power to gratify our need for them symbolically (Larson, 159).”
The need for Roots is one need that many people experience when they move away from home or work for a company that tends to transfer them to a different location frequently. “In the decade following college graduation - The average American moves at least a dozen times (Larson, 160).” The town of Fargo is portrayed by the director in a washed out tone though the blinding white of the snow. Occasionally the film’s director paints the scene with the dull grays and browns of police uniforms and winter jackets. The slow pace of the film reflects the town’s remote location and unhurried ambiance. The town is a perfect stereotype of the small town that many people in America have left behind as they have grown older and moved to more populated areas of the county. This setting offers viewers a chance to relate and reflect on their own experiences, further persuading the viewers to feel the needs and emotions felt by the characters in the film.
“None of us wants to believe in out own mortality (Larson, 160).” The need for Immortality is a need shared by the characters in this film and the majority of the persons viewing the film. “Studies have show that only the fear of giving a speech, exceeds the fear of dying. (Larson, 160)” The fear mortality shines through Lundegaard and Gunderson in their quests for an ego boost, love, self-worth, and the realization of most of the needs outlined by Packard’s Eight Compelling Needs. At several points in the film, each of them say, do and make decisions that will prolong or enhance their lives.
Although Packard’s Eight Compelling Needs explain the motives of the characters in the film Fargo, it is important to note that these needs also coincide with Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs. These needs include from the lowest level to the highest: Basic Psychological needs, Safety and Security needs, Belongingness and Love needs, Esteem Needs, and Self-actualization needs (Larson, 161-166). Maslow argues that humans will first fulfill the needs at the bottom of the pyramid, or the basic psychological needs. Moving up, eventually to self-actualization needs, people move through several different needs, each one requiring different solutions and fulfillment strategies. Each of Packard’s Eight Compelling Needs concur with Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs, however Maslow goes further to explain the order which people will fulfill these needs.
The persuasive strategies used in the film Fargo take advantage of the Process Premises, specifically needs, outlined by Packard and Maslow. The persuasive techniques used in Fargo rely heavily on its audience. “…The first premises serve as springboards for persuasion in enthymemes…these needs whether identified by Packard’s list or Maslow’s Pyramid or some other model, are strongly felt by audiences (Larson, 166-167).” Our emotions allow us to relate to the characters and the needs, which they seek to fulfill. When the audience of a film can relate to the characters, they are persuaded to emerge themselves into the film and experience the same feelings and emotions of those characters. Audiences of this film were divided when it was release, many could not grasp the comedic seriousness of the movie, but the persuasive power of relating to the viewers general needs allowed for the films success. The needs and desires of each character, specifically, Lundegaard and Gunderson, outline these persuasive strategies.

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Indoor Winter Fun

July 30, 2008

Tell the cold weather to take a hike, and get ready to have some fun!
* Winter Beach Party
Bring that fun-in-the-sun feeling into your home with a winter beach bash. Spread beach towels on the living room floor; wear your swimsuit and a pair of flippers (why not?); feast on hot dogs; make castles out of clay and play- dough; and don’t forget to take pictures!
* Winter Word Race
Challenge your friends and family to a race of the minds. Set a kitchen timer for one minute. When the time starts, write down as many winter-related words as you can think of. The winner gets a cup of hot cocoa and the chance to choose the next word race topic.
* Balloon Drop
Who doesn’t love a good balloon game? Arrange players in a circle and have them number off. The player with the highest number is “It”. “It” stands in the center of the circle, and calls out a number while dropping an inflated balloon. The player with that number must catch the balloon before it reaches the floor. If the player catches the balloon, “It” calls another number. But if the balloon touches the floor, then that player is “It” and the game continues.

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Puppies Kittens Rabbits Hamsters Fish Tanks Exotic Pets And Bird Houses

July 29, 2008

Pet’s, any kind of pet can be a welcome addition to your family. Children love to play with puppies and kittens. They learn about life as their pets grow and mature. Dog’s and cat’s are wonderful companions to both the young and old of any family.
Rabbits, hamsters and birds bring a touch of natures wildness into our lives as we care for pets that are a little different than what everyone else has. Not everyone owns a parrot or a ferret or even a hamster. While these animals require different care than a dog or cat, their living habits and routines can be very instructional and entertaining.
Tropical Fish and Aquariums.
The sparkle and shimmer of both saltwater fish and freshwater fish bring an elegance and sophistication to our home or office that no other pet can. Not only that, fish are quiet.
Whatever your interests in pets is, always try to choose the best pet products and pet supplies so your special pet, no matter what it is, will have the best nutrition and pet care available.

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Book Excerpt Give Me A Home Where The Dairy Cows Roam

July 29, 2008

When I reached the top of the driveway after getting off the school bus one April afternoon, I couldn’t help but wonder why Dad was standing on the stepladder next to the tractor.
I had never seen my father use a stepladder to fix a tractor. He didn’t have to climb on anything to reach the engine. I also knew he wasn’t filling the tractor with gasoline. The 460 Farmall was too far away from the gas barrel underneath the silver maple tree by the garage, so the hose wouldn’t reach that far.
“What’s Dad doing Needles?” I asked.
Our dog, Needles, had come to meet me, his tail going in circles. Needles was a Cocker-Spaniel mix we had gotten when he was a tiny cream-colored puppy with wavy hair on his ears. Within the first week, he had nipped my sister’s ankles while she was hanging clothes outside to dry. She had exclaimed, “Get those needles out of here!” And the name had stuck. As Needles grew older, his color had darkened to light caramel.
At the sound of the word, ‘Dad,’ Needles’ ears perked up, and his round, dark-brown eyes stared at me with sharpened intensity. Needles was Dad’s ‘hired man.’ That’s what Dad said, anyway. When my father worked in the field, the dog would either trot behind the tractor or, on warmer days, would find some shade at the end of the field where he could keep an eye on things. When we milked cows, he stayed in the barn, sometimes nudging aside the cats so he could drink some milk from their dish. And when Dad went on an errand with the pickup truck, Needles often rode with him.
“What’s Dad doing?” I repeated. “Go find Dad, Needles.”
The dog, his feathery tail still wagging, spun around and took off toward the machine shed.
I stood for a minute, listening to the redwing blackbirds singing in the marsh below our driveway-on-ka-leeee-eeeeee, on-ka-leeeee-eeeeee. From the pasture next to the barn, meadowlarks joined in-tweedle-ee-tweedle-eedle-um, tweedle-ee-tweedle-eedle-um.
As I turned toward the house, my books tucked in the crook of one arm and my jacket draped over the other, I still couldn’t quite believe that the sun was shining. For the past two weeks, the weather had been cold and rainy, but today the dark clouds had gone away and the sun had appeared. During afternoon recess at school, it was so warm that we had all taken off our jackets.
Last night at supper, Dad said he wished it would stop raining, and I knew this was the kind of weather he had been waiting for so he could plant oats and corn, although he wouldn’t start for a few days, not until he was sure the fields were dried out and that he wouldn’t get stuck in the mud with the tractor.
Although I usually went into the house right away when I arrived home from school, today I set my books on the porch steps. The house seemed bigger, somehow, now that the snow had melted and the grass was beginning to turn green. My mother said our house was nothing more than a glorified log cabin-and in fact, underneath the siding it was a log cabin that had been built by my Norwegian great-grandfather.
The rumbling in my stomach reminded me it had been a very long time since lunch. I liked to eat a snack right away when I got home from school, but with Dad working outside by the machine shed, curiosity got the better of me and I figured I could always eat a snack later.
When I drew closer to the machine shed, I saw a green bottle standing on the engine cowling next to Dad’s elbow and a wad of rags hanging out of his back pocket. Dad was wearing faded blue work overalls, a blue short-sleeved chambray work shirt and brown leather work boots. During the winter, he wore long-sleeved plaid flannel shirts, but during the summer, he wore short-sleeved shirts.
“What’re you doing?” I asked.
My father looked up quickly, as if he were surprised that someone had spoken to him. Needles sat beside the tractor, keeping a watchful eye on Dad.
“Home from school so soon?” Dad asked, reaching for his pocket watch. “Well, yes, I guess it is that time already, isn’t it.”
I had asked him once why he carried a pocket watch. He said a wrist watch would get too dirty from the dust and oil and grease and would probably stop working.
“Why are you standing on the stepladder Daddy?”
The four-sixty had been around for almost as long as I could remember. It had been brand new when Dad bought it. He called the four-sixty “the big tractor,” and he called the Super C Farmall “the little tractor.” He used the four-sixty for all of the heavy field work. Plowing and planting in the spring, cutting and baling hay during the summer, harvesting oats in August-right around the time of my birthday or maybe a little later-and for picking corn in the fall.
The four-sixty was the prettiest tractor I had ever seen, with its bright red fenders and the alternating red and white sections above the engine. The rear tires, as black and shiny as licorice, were much taller than me.
Sometimes when Dad went to our other place (a second farm that my parents owned about a mile away), he would let me ride on the four-sixty with him. It was tremendous fun to sit on the red fender, right next to Dad, while the wind blew through my hair and Needles trotted beside us.
Instead of answering my question about why he was on the stepladder, Dad grabbed the green bottle and tossed it in my direction.
I reached out with both hands and caught it up-side-down. When I turned it upright, I saw that the label had the letters T-u-r-t-l-e-W-a-x printed on it.
Turtle Wax?
“You’re waxing the four-sixty?” I said.
Dad pulled another rag out of his back pocket. “Yup.”
Now that I was close to the tractor, I could smell the wax, a bitter odor that reminded me of the way peach pits smelled. Every summer, Mom would buy a couple boxes of peaches to can. Homemade canned peaches tasted much better than the canned peaches from the store.
Several used rags occupied the little shelf on the front of the stepladder where Dad or my brother or sister put paint cans when they were painting. The shelf was knobby with drips of dried paint. Most of the drips were white because all of our farm buildings were white, although light blue drips from the kitchen and pale yellow drips from the living room were mixed in with the white drips.
I looked down at the bottle again. “But I thought this was for cars. And trucks.”
Dad shrugged. “Well, yes, I guess it is.”
“Then why are you using it on the tractor?”
My big brother, Ingman, waxed his car a couple of times a year, and my sister, Loretta, waxed her car as well. But I had never seen Dad wax anything.
“I wanted to get this done before I start the field work,” he said, “to help protect the paint.”
“Protect the paint? From what?”
“The sun,” he explained. “Sun’ s hard on the paint. Fades it.”
I had to admit that the tractor did look nice. The red parts were bright and shiny, like an apple that’s been polished, and the white parts looked as clean as puffy clouds drifting across a blue summer sky.
“The sun would fade the paint?”I asked. “Like the sun faded Mom’s curtains in the living room?”
The curtains had been white with gold and brown patterns that reminded me of leaves drifting to the ground on a warm fall day. Mom said she liked the curtains because they were pretty and were made of heavy cotton and would be easy to wash. Except that after the first summer, the curtains didn’t have gold and brown patterns anymore. They were mostly just white with pale brown streaks.
Mom said the streaks made her curtains look like they were dirty, so the curtains had been replaced with something Mom called “drapes” that were the color of ripe corn. Yellow was my mother’s favorite color. Mom said if the sun faded her new drapes she was going to give up and leave the living room windows bare.
By the smile on Dad’s face, I could tell he clearly remembered the episode with Mom’s curtains.
“Yes, kind of like that,” he replied.
He reached into his back pocket, pulled out another rag and held it up.
It was a piece of Mom’s curtains.
“Mom’s letting you use her curtains to wax the tractor?”
“Well, I don’t know if she knows I’m using them to wax the tractor. They’re not much good for curtains anymore, but they make dandy wiping rags.”
I watched as my father rubbed a few more spots on the engine cowling. A breeze rustled the maple branches arched high above our heads. The maples didn’t have leaves yet, but they were covered with fuzzy red buds that would soon turn into leaves. From the other side of the barnyard fence, one of our cows bellowed. “Mooooooo!” she said.
I turned toward the barn and saw a dozen of the cows standing by the fence, watching us. Most of our cows were black-and-white Holsteins.
Dad looked up and saw the cows too. “I guess they know it’s almost time for their supper, don’t they.”
He climbed off the stepladder and turned to me. “Since they all seem to be expecting it, I suppose I’d better put them in the barn and feed them. And you should probably go in the house and change out of your school clothes.”
“What’s Dad doing?” Mom asked when I walked into the kitchen a few minutes later. She sat by the kitchen table with a cup of coffee and an oatmeal cookie and the newspaper spread out in front of her. We had lots of newspapers at our house. One that came once a week, and one that came every day. Mom was reading the one that came every day.
“How did you know I was talking to Dad?” I asked as I set my books on the table.
“When you didn’t come in the house right away, I poked my head out the door to see where you were,” she replied.
I might have known. My mother hardly ever missed anything that went on around the place.
“Dad just got done waxing the tractor,” I said.
“Dad’s waxing the four-sixty?”
“With Turtle Wax. And he used your curtains.”
Mom frowned. “My curtains? What in the world is he doing using my curtains?”
She paused. “Oh-you mean the curtains I put into the rag bag. I knew he was doing something with the tractor, but I didn’t know he was waxing it.”
The hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach suddenly reminded me I still had not yet eaten a snack. “What’s for supper?”
“Meatballs and gravy and mashed potatoes,” Mom said. “I suppose you’re hungry right now, though, aren’t you.”
“I’m starving.”
She turned to look at the clock. “I don’t think you’re starving in the literal sense, but we won’t eat for at least an hour, so I suppose a couple of cookies would be all right.”
Last weekend Loretta had baked a batch of oatmeal cookies. I reached into the canister on the counter. Usually my sister made ordinary oatmeal cookies, but this time she had added coconut.
After I had finished my cookies, I went upstairs to change my clothes, and then a little while later, Dad came in the house.
“I hear you’ve been doing y our spring cleaning,” Mom said.
“My spring cleaning?” Dad replied. “Well, yes, I suppose you could say that. We paid good money for the big tractor and it doesn’t hurt to keep it looking nice.”
“I also heard you used my curtains.”
“They’re not much good for curtains anymore,” Dad said.
My mother sighed. “No, they’re not.”
Dad grinned. “Especially not since you ripped them up into rags.”
Mom turned and made her way over to the table, grasping the back of one of the kitchen chairs to keep her balance. It wasn’t so much that Mom sat down. She collapsed. The polio hadn’t left her legs with enough strength to allow her to sit down gracefully.
“Roy,” she said to Dad after she had settled into her chair, “since when do you have time to wax the tractor, of all things?”
My father shrugged. “What else am I going to do on a beautiful spring day when I can’t get out in the field yet? Those curtains were just what I needed to do the job. If you don’t mind, I’d like to keep them out in the shed to use for polish rags.”
“Well,” Mom said, “I’m glad my curtains are good for something.”
Although that was the first time I saw Dad waxing the tractor, it certainly wasn’t the last. In the following years on the first nice spring day, he would get the four-sixty out to wax it before he started the field work.
Every year, Mom and Loretta did their spring cleaning, too, washing walls and windows and curtains in the kitchen, the living room, the bathroom and all three bedrooms.
From what I could see, Dad had more fun than Mom and Loretta.
Instead of cleaning the curtains-he used the curtains to do his cleaning.
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Child Support 5 Key Things Every Parent Should Know

July 28, 2008

There is no magic solution to getting issues surrounding child support resolved. Most parents know that when dealing with the bureaucracy tied to the child support system persistence, persistence, persistence is the key that opens the door. In fact, it is the only thing that will open any door when it comes to getting a resolution to a problem. You cannot count on pencil pushers, or all too patient white collar “Friend of the Court” workers to help. They are overworked, underpaid, wrapped in a sea of paperwork, antiquated computer programs, and red tape that barely allows them to move from point “A” to point “B”. So what’s a parent to do?
1. If your relationship even remotely appears to be on the rocks and children are involved start collecting information on your partner. This is advice for both men and women. Don’t fool yourself gentlemen; you too can become a custodial parent seeking child support from your partner. It may not be the norm, but it is a reality. Don’t sneak around, and don’t feel as though you are going behind someone’s back. You have to do what is in the best interest of your children and yourself. Begin collecting bank account numbers, list of licenses, locations of stock/bond papers, money markets and past work/address history. Gather as much as you can.
2. Keep impeccable records. Write the names, addresses, phone and fax numbers to everyone you talk to concerning your child support case. You must hold people accountable and this is one way to do it. Don’t ever be afraid to ask a judge or referee, attorney or the child support worker of your case who they report to at the end of the day. This will send a clear message that they will be held accountable for every word that comes out of their mouth so it better be in your best interest.
3. Parents who were married at the time of conception may not have an issue filing for a child support order and often times your divorce attorney will cover this matter in your initial interview. However if the parents are not married, establishing paternity is essential if you expect to receive child support. Paternity means fatherhood. Establishing paternity provides the child/children with a legal father.
4. Child support equals survival. Break-ups are never easy for the parents or the children. It often means that the emotional and financial standard of living for all parties will suffer. Parents must understand that child support is paid for the well being of the child and the parent caring for that child. Money is a powerful tool in this society and can be used as a weapon when it comes to child support. The duty to pay child support and the right to visit are two different issues. They are not connected in the law. In the eyes of the court the child is entitled to contact with both parents. If non-support is an issue, begin documenting the visitation and during your next visit with the judge or referee assigned to your case mention the fact that support has stopped. If you don’t have an upcoming court visit, write the judge or referee assigned to your case. You can also inform your child support worker if you have one assigned, but write the judge and request a hearing to address the matter immediately.
5. There is power in the pen, or in the keyboard, depending on how you choose to communicate with the people associated with your child support case. Always, always leave a paper trail. If you send a letter, ask the postal worker to give you a confirmation, it will at least let you know when the letter has arrived. Calling child support workers or trying to get in touch with “Friend of the Court” staff is as impossible as willing the “mega millions lottery.” Parent must continue to write or, drop off letters to their workers/judges, and get the name of the person you leave the letter with, along with a phone number, This is great advice for any situation, if you think someone is giving you a bogus phone number, use your cell phone or a pay phone and call the number before you leave the location. If the number is not valid go back, ask to speak to a supervisor and let them know; and take the information to court with you so it can become part of the court record. If you truly have a problem getting child support issues addressed, write your legislators and your governor, weekly if needed. The squeaky wheel get the oil, and nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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What Your Kid Really Wants For Christmas

July 28, 2008

The day is long gone that all any kid really wants for Christmas is their two front teeth! Chances are that high on the list will be a new cell phone, a PS2, iPod Nano or one of the many competing MP3 players, a digital camera, or indeed the latest clutch of computer games. The choice of gifts seems to grow each year, with even a three dimensional pool table making an appearance this year! For those whose kids can’t be pried away from the TV maybe the new OC in a Tin board game may be the answer, or even The Price is Right interactive DVD game?
The sheer range of gift ideas is staggering and tracking them down in the store is a real chore. When you couple this with the truly fickle nature of kid’s crazes and the ever present peer pressure factor, then trying to select what is right for the kids in your life can be a daunting and expensive process-nevertheless, did you know that you can get online coupons that can help you cut down on the expenses this Christmas?
The one thing you can count on, as the Christmas season progresses is that the retail toys as well as games and electronic stores will increasingly resemble places under siege as hordes of desperate parents wander aimlessly around trying to find the latest “must have” item. To preserve your sanity and temper why not consider what millions of other sensible shoppers now do and take advantage of shopping online? What’s more, you can take advantage of online coupons and save yourself a hefty amount of cash. That way, from the comfort of your home or during breaks at work, you can have a hassle and stress free shopping experience with the additional benefits of generally being able to buy at lower than typical retail prices because you utilize online coupons. Also, you can benefit from direct delivery. Indeed, you can usually specify delivery to a third party location, which is an ideal method of sending the gift to other family members who are located further away from you.
So whether your kids want to lock themselves away with a hand held Suduko game, their own DVD player or even head outside with a new football, the places to shop with ease is appearing in increasing numbers online. Further, with each place you find online to shop, you will find a growing amount of Internet businesses that accept coupons online. Save yourself the time, trouble and stress of heading for the mall and fire up the pc; a whole world of potential gifts is just a click away along with serious potential savings with coupons. Whether your kids will actually use the gifts beyond Christmas Day is always down to fate and fashion but if you want to give your family a stress free family environment this Christmas, then shopping on the Internet and saving yourself a few bucks with coupons online is the perfect solution.

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Home Decorating For Smaller Spaces

July 27, 2008

“Big Things Come In Small Packages” We’re all familiar with this quote, it’s normally associated with gifts not home decorating, but it should be.
A one or two bedroom house, apartment, condo or townhouse can be just as impressive and grand as something with fifteen bathrooms, Wow, imaging having to clean all those, I have enough trouble with two.
One interesting things I have found from past experience is that decorating a smaller place is actually easier, not to mention less expensive.
Whether your currently living in a small space or downsizing - that’s another one of those trendy “buzz” words, which simply means your moving into something smaller - planning how your going to decorate or redecorate is a good idea.
You may think because it’s smaller, having large pieces is out of the question. Not true, having oversized furniture is not going to make your rooms appear smaller, what it will do is give a warm inviting feeling. Of course the layout and size of a room will determine how many pieces can comfortably go into it. After all, you may be looking for drama and comfort, but you still need to be able to maneuver around.
This also applies to accessories; it’s better to have a few large dramatic pieces as opposed to a lot of small items, which can tend to turn into clutter and dust collectors. The exception to this would be with collections. But again you want to have places to showcase them like glass front hutches, cabinets, bookcases or shelves.
Another decorating challenge can be in warming up your new place. This normally can easily be achieved by adding color with paint. Now that’s all fine and good unless you happen to be renting and your landlord say’s “Paint, oh no”. That’s ok; color can be added in a number of other ways. Several examples:

Window treatments
Furniture fabric
Accent pillows
Area rugs
Wall art
Plants and Flowers

Storage can be another issue in a smaller space, there just never seems to be enough. If you’re buying new furniture or deciding on which pieces to bring from your current home, look for ones that can perform double duty.
For example:

Instead of the standard coffee table, look for one with a flip top or shelves underneath. Cedar chests, blanket chests or trunks can also be substituted.
Place an armoire intended for the bedroom in the living room it’s the perfect storage place for remotes, magazines, extra bedding, kitchen linen or any of those pesky little things you just can’t seem to find a place for.
A small floor cabinet you might have used in a bathroom can become an end table. Most of these come with drawers, shelves or both.
Decorative stacking boxes or even old suitcases not only make for great storage, but the also become terrific accessories.
Plastic storage boxes come in a variety of sizes, colors and are inexpensive. They can be stacked on shelves in a closet or cabinet, even into drawers. Clear smaller sizes are perfect storage for shoes, winter gloves, pictures or how about extension cords, nails, packages of hooks or hand tools. Larger sizes can keep extra winter coats, blankets, odd season clothes or seasonal decorations neat and in one place.
Baskets and hampers are another option.
Kids rooms are always in need of extra places for all their treasures, plastic milk crates are perfect for them. They come in many bright brilliant colors. One suggestion, if you are planning on stacking the crates and have small children it would be beneficial to secure them to the wall.
Plastic shelving units, which can be found in most discount stores, are perfect for mounting on the backs of doors or on the wall in closets. These come in especially handy in the kitchen for holding extra soda bottles, canned goods, paper towel etc.

Well, I think you’ve gotten the idea, look around and use your imagination; you will be surprised with what you can come up with.
Moving into and decorating a small space can be challenging, but with a little planning it can be just a beautiful as any large house. And in the end size really doesn’t matter, if it’s filled with the people and things you love, then you have successfully created a home.
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Are You A Worrier

July 27, 2008

Are you a worrier? I think it comes with the job description of Mom. Seems like there is always something you can worry about. As a child I memorized Philippians 4:6. This is what I memorized, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything pray.” Recently, I rediscovered this verse and found I had not done a complete memorization. The verse says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Did you catch the big point I was missing? “With thanksgiving.” When you pray to God about your worries are you also thanking Him for all your blessings? For me it has given me a whole new way to think about my worries and prayer. For example, you can start out something like this, “God, thank you for choosing me as your child, providing food to eat, my home, my husband, my children, and all the many blessings You have given me. Because, You have been faithful in the past and You always keep Your promises, I know You can handle this worry _________ of mine right now. Lord, I give it to You. Thank You again for Your faithfulness. When we spend more time thanking God for all the things He has done for us our worries seems small in the hands of a really big God.
Recently, we were reading in Genesis with our children and I found an excellent example of not trusting God with your worries. We were reading about Lot and his daughters. If you will remember after God rescued them from Sodom and Gomorrah, Lot’s daughters were worried they would not have children or a husband. So, they got their father drunk and they “laid” with him in order to have children. My children’s first reaction was “gross”. Hey, I agree. Then, I pointed out something even deeper about this passage. Lot’s daughters had just witnessed God rescuing them from total destruction. God chose their family and no other to live. How powerful and amazing. How special they were in God’s eyes. Yet, after witnessing the marvelous and destructive power of God, who saved them from utter destruction, they could not trust God to find them husbands. Oh, how that must have grieved God. The God who saved their lives certainly can be trusted to find them husbands. But, no they didn’t trust God and decided to come up with their own plan. I’m afraid we are guilty of the same “type” of sin. Not trusting God to come through for us and we scheme to figure out a way to make it work.
Dear Reader, whatever your worry is today you have a God who chose you and loved you enough to send His only Son to die for you. Do you not think your God cannot handle and work out whatever is worrying you? You have an awesome Father who is just waiting to take all your worries and continue to show His faithfulness. Give your worries to Him and leave them there.

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Sticking To A Debt Consolidation Plan

July 26, 2008

The success of any debt consolidation plan is dependent on how you stick to it. This is of course obvious, but it should be known that though getting out of debt can be challenging, it can surely be accomplished with the right dedication and perseverance. So keeping this point in mind, it is important to remember that you take some extra steps to give your debt consolidation plan the best chance to succeed.
The most important thing to implement and remember in any debt consolidation plan is to cut up all your credit cards, except for one or two, which can be used in emergencies. To symbolize a fresh start to your financial status, it is important that you take your debt consolidation plan seriously and thus throw away the pieces of your credit cards. For you to be able to create your own debt consolidation plan, it is important that you cancel all your credit lines and thus request a lower rate of interest on the remaining debt. With this, you should get an idea on how much money you will be expecting to cover with your debt consolidation plan.
Another point to remember and implement in your debt consolidation plan is to transfer as much debt as possible to the credit card having the lowest interest rate. This credit card will then be the focus of your debt consolidation plan, rather than the many different loans you have from different creditors. Another option for your debt consolidation plan to consider is to get a debt consolidation loan from a bank at a lower rate. To make sure that you will stick to your debt consolidation plan, and also not accrue further debts, it is important that you use cash for all your purchases, and to buy only what you can afford. Remember, if you don’t have the money for it, then it is probable that you don’t need it anyway! Remmebe that you are cutting down on your luxuries with a reason, and make it a point to focus on your debt consolidation plan. Never be tempted to think that one small charge on a credit card won’t have a negative impact on your debt consolidation, as it very much will! Remember, that there will be another sale coming to your favorite store in the future, but this is your only chance to get all your finances back on track. It is very important that you stick on your debt consolidation plan for this to happen.
The most important point of focus of your debt consolidation plan would be to commit yourself to start paying off your debts one at a time, and not only say this, to do it too! Make it a point to pay off the credit card and loans with the highest rate of interest first so that you give your plan the best possible start and thus, a better chance at success in the long run.
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